In the days before
Schedule the appointment and confirm timing with the provider
Decide where in your home the appointment will take place
Gather a soft blanket or bed they love for the space
Decide who will be present — family, children, other pets
Tell children in age-appropriate language (see separate guide)
Notify close family members who would want to say goodbye
Request paw print or fur clipping if desired — arrange kit or ask vet
Decide on aftercare: private cremation / communal cremation / home burial / other
Aftercare provider:
Confirm aftercare arrangements with provider
Take photos and videos — ordinary moments you'll want later
Let your pet do what they love, if they're able
Arrange time off work if needed
Confirm payment method with the provider
The morning of
Prepare the space — blanket, low light, familiar smells
Keep the home calm and quiet before the vet arrives
Feed your pet whatever they want, if they're eating
Have the paw print kit accessible if using
Make sure children are prepared and have a trusted adult with them
After the appointment
Take as much time as you need before the vet leaves
Confirm aftercare pickup time if applicable
Put away food bowls, beds, and toys when you are ready — not before
Notify family, friends, and your pet's regular vet
Cancel any upcoming vet appointments
Cancel recurring food, medication, or subscription deliveries
Notify pet insurance provider if applicable
Allow other pets in the household to investigate the space if they wish
When you are ready
Complete the memorial information sheet (see separate printable)
Order or arrange any keepsakes — portrait, urn, memorial item
Consider a small memorial — a planted tree, a framed photo, a note
Begin the grief check-in journal if that feels useful
Notes